I GIVE EXACTLY THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF FUCKS,
AND YOU CAN, TOO.
Giving the right amount of fucks is more than an attitude.
It requires knowing what actually matters — and being able to hold that position when everyone around you says you're wrong about your feelings, your values, your identity.
Even your eyeballs are wrong, they'll say.
I'm Natasha Coulis.
I know what it's like to have the facts of your own life declared inadmissible— at the most intimate level to the most institutional. That kind of erasure nearly broke me. What saved me was knowing how to build an argument that could outlast a powerful story.
I am currently writing Unfit—a memoir about maternal estrangement, institutional violence, and the cost to claim personhood in a world grooming women into motherhood.
I also help people—mothers, women, and autistic people in particular—to know what they know, understand how they know it, and to hold that ground with power and influence.
Because truth matters and there's usually a way to prove it to people sincere enough to want it and intellectually ready to do the work.
3 WAYS TO ENGAGE WITH MY WORK
It's possible to know what's most true and
the answer matters.
If you've ever known something true and watched it get overruled — by a partner, an institution, or a room full of people who prefer to protect their collective comfort — you already how maddening it is when truth gets dismissed or clouded by distractions.
Truth matters. Even moral truth. Even the truth about who was right and who was wrong in your most intimate relationships. And while nothing can be known with absolute certainty — Descartes went down that road and it nearly broke him — some things are far more warranted than others and that's enough to work with. Logic is how you tell the difference.
That's what Actually— is for.
Stop giving the wrong fucks.
